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  • Ann Widdecombe: AIDS not as devastating as feared

    Ann Widdecombe: AIDS not as devastating as feared

    “We have had the scare of SARs, bird flu, Ebola and of course AIDS. None proved as devastating as feared.“

    Speaking her mind on COVID-19 and the spread of Coronavirus, Ann Widdecombe told her Daily Express readers that the virus may prove not to be “devastating” and called for a “sense of proportion”.

    The former Conservative party Minister grouped AIDS in with bird flu and Ebola. All of which were absolutely devasting for those who died from the spread of viruses.

    It is to be noted that AIDS, which killed thousands of gay and bi men in the 80s and 90s, has caused over 32 million deaths worldwide.

    According to The New European, in her latest column for the tabloid Daily Express she wrote, “I’m all for sensible precautions but I cannot help feeling that we are going mad over coronavirus,” 

    Widdecombe added: “We need a sense of proportion in the face of the financial markets going into meltdown, aeroplanes being grounded and shops shutting their doors.

    “It is nasty but, given the recovery rate, it is not the Black Death.”

    Taking to Twitter to comment on Widdecombe’s column the editor of Beyond Positive, Tom Hayes said, “Oh look, Ann Widdecombe is claiming #COVID19 won’t be a disaster, it’ll just be like AIDS. Over 32,000,000 people have died of AIDS, but it’s OK they’re mostly minorities and you couldn’t give two flying fucks about those sort of people could you, Ann?”

    https://twitter.com/PositiveLad/status/1238503653100662785

    Cancelled

    Last year Widdecombe had one less opportunity to spread her thoughts after a theatre company, Selladoor, scrapped an event at a venue in Ilfracombe, Devon, where the right-wing politician was due to host a one-woman show.

    The decision to cancel the show follows on from an interview on Sky News in which Widdecombe suggested that science may “produce an answer” to homosexuality – a comment which has led to a huge backlash against the Brexit Party politician.

  • It’s time for companies to stop offering holiday prizes to countries where being LGBT+ can land you in prison

    It’s time for companies to stop offering holiday prizes to countries where being LGBT+ can land you in prison

    I’m a fan of holidays and I’m also a fan of prizes, so a prize that’s also a holiday it’s pretty much up there with buttery crumpets and that new car smell for me, but I have to plead with the marketing departments at large corporations not to offer trips to countries where being LGBT+ could wind you all banged up.

    This afternoon a Caffe Nero marketing email landed in my inbox advertising a competition where the prize was a holibob to Cairo. How nice I thought until I wonder what are the legal ramifications of a visit to Egypt for a card-carrying gay like myself.

    Not good. it turns out.

    A little digging from the marketing department would have them discover homosexuality has been “defacto illegal” in Egypt since the year 2000. Yes, in Egypt under its “morality laws” people found guilty of breaking such a law could face “up to 17 years with or without hard labour and fines”

    Not to pick on Nero’s but they really should know better, after all, they do use the rainbow flag, during pride season in some of their stores.

    But they aren’t the only company to offer competitions where the prize could land LGBT+ people in trouble.

    You wouldn’t think that in 2020 it’d be acceptable to offer a prize that actively discriminated against LGBT+ people, but when you see a prize that’s a holiday to any country which outlaws homosexuality, and there are a lot of them – that’s effectively what they are doing, especially to gay and bi men who don’t want to end up in court facing punishments ranging from fines, lashes or even death.

    Even high profile game shows can get it wrong, in May 2019, Channel 5’s Blind Date sent two bisexual men on a romantic trip to St. Lucia, where it is illegal for males to have sex with other males.

    If we want change, we are going have to call on companies and allies to do their part.

    If we want a world that is tolerant of LGBT+ people we have to start showing that being anti-LGBT isn’t good for business, travel or politically and that includes using them in your marketing campaigns.

  • This might be the campest way to clean your hands during the Covid-19 outbreak

    This might be the campest way to clean your hands during the Covid-19 outbreak

    “I Will Survive”

    Gloria Gaynor has delivered the video you didn’t think you needed – showing that the camp classic, “I Will Survive” is the only song you actually need to sing whilst cleaning your hands during the Coronavirus outbreak.

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    As the world’s supply of disinfectant hand wipes becomes thin on the ground, disco queen, Gloria Gaynor is here to remind you that you can simply wash your hands – and in accordance with the best advice, the chorus of her best-known song is long enough to make sure you get them all nice and clean.

    https://twitter.com/gloriagaynor/status/1237908407241314306

    In her Tic Tok video, which has now surpassed over a million views, the songstress is seen washing her hands to the chorus of her mega-hit.

    She’s even started the #IWillSurviveChallenge – which natch we’re totally onboard with.

  • This one tweet sums up everything a bottom feels when the top cancels

    This one tweet sums up everything a bottom feels when the top cancels

    Prepping takes time. It’s a dark art. It’s a f*cking ball ache. So don’t cancel.

    Bottoms of the world will surely and utterly get this tweet, which we think totally sums up that feeling when you’ve organised your Grindr hook up and then at the last minute, once you’ve done all your prepping, your top, pulls out – and not in a good way.

    We don’t know whether tops realise the effort that goes into making sure you won’t have a poop incident mid sesh or any chumber nuts when it comes to that booty call.

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    The thing is, most bottoms aren’t just “oven-ready” as it were – nope there’s a process and if a guy is particularly careful he may even have skipped meals for the night’s events – hell, we’ve even heard of some porn stars who don’t eat proper meals for up to two days before a shoot!

    Check out our list of foods you should definitely avoid if you’re planning to bottom.

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    Just ice for dinner tonight….

    It’s a faff and there’s quite a bit of anxiety attached to it as well…

    There’s always the fear that you’ve not done it enough. Or you’ve done it too much (and left an entire well of water up there).

  • A Drag Race UK superfan just did something totally gross to Vinegar Strokes

    A Drag Race UK superfan just did something totally gross to Vinegar Strokes

    It was an accident, but still… ?

    Drag Race superstar Vinegar Strokes is freaking out after an ultra gross encounter with a super fan.

    According to the Drag Race UK Queen, a fan described herself as a “huge fan” before spitting in her face, apparently by accident.

    Eugh. Just gross. Particularly as we’re living through an outbreak of Covid-19.

    The DQ said that she was “freaking out” and had to “sanitise [her] lips”.

    She also uploaded a clip of her smearing disinfectant on her lips!

    Response from her fans on Twitter ranged from a strong “no” to one commentator who urged the queen not to publicly shame the fan.

    We reached out to Ms Strokes to find out whether it was an accident or done on purpose, who told us, “It was an accident, she was just excited, which I don’t blame her for hahaha!”

    Guys be careful when talking to people, remember – “say it don’t spray it”.

  • These are the best gay / LGBT+ bars in Nottingham according to your reviews

    These are the best gay / LGBT+ bars in Nottingham according to your reviews

    Nottingham’s LGBT+ scene is growing and getting better. There are currently five LGBT bars and venues in the city and these are the best – according to your Google reviews.

    The Lord Roberts

    Newly redecorated the Lord Roberts comes out on top with a rating from Google reviews of 4.3 and we’re not surprised. The bar staff are incredibly friendly and if you go on a Wednesday night you’ll be able to sample the fun and games of a pub quiz and Sticky Fingers.

    Rating: 4.3 with 435 reviews

    24 Broad Street, Nottingham

    Number 27

    Perhaps Nottingham’s newest bar, it receives a great rating of 4.9 but only has 8 reviews, compared to The Lord Roberts’ 435. That said the drinks are cheap and has got its regulars!

    It’s right across the road from The Lord Roberts.

    Rating: 4.9 from 8 reviews

    27 Broad Street, Nottingham

    New Forresters

    Next on the list is the newly updated New Forresters which receives a 4.1 rating on Google. It’s a friendly, welcoming place with a zero attitude feel amongst staff and clients and the drinks are cheap to boot! Nice.

    Rating: 4.1 from 174 reviews

    18 St. Ann’s Street, Nottingham

    Propaganda

    Propaganda comes up as a 3.8 rating on Google Reviews, but it’s a lively LGBT venue open until 5 AM on Wednesdays, Fridays and Saturdays. It is Nottingham’s only dedicated gay / LGBT+ club.

    Rating: 3.8 from 411 reviews

    8-10 Broadway, Nottingham

    Not LGBT+ but friendly

    The Newmarket

    Not technically a gay bar, but a very gay-friendly vibe. It receives a great 4.3 rating from its punters. Check out the karaoke. Also supports LGBT+ charities during pride season.

    Rating: 4.3 from 330 reviews

    38 Lower Parliament Street, Nottingham

  • Do sexual health clinics use Penis Swabs, as they show on E4’s The Sex Clinic?

    Do sexual health clinics use Penis Swabs, as they show on E4’s The Sex Clinic?

    Channel 4 might be doing STI clinics a disservice when it comes to patient fears about what might happen to them when they go in for a sexual health checkup on their show, The Sex Clinic.

    Although The Sex Clinic is widely praised for the work that it does in educating us all about the importance of testing for sexually transmitted infections, there’s one thing that it shows, that isn’t quite right.

    The sexual health charity, Saving Lives took to Twitter to calm the fears of any guys out there worrying that a penis swab (that’s where they stick a swab down your pee hole) will be taken for testing and it turns out that the swabs that happen on the programme are actually done to fit in with the TV format, rather than refecting what actually happens.

    They wrote,

    We know we say this every week but: The penis swabs used on #TheSexClinic are NOT standard practice for routine STI screening in UK sexual health clinics. Usually, we just ask for a urine sample. The swabs are used on the show to give rapid results to fit the TV show format.

    So there you go, don’t fret. Go for a check-up. If you’re there for a regular and routine check-up it’s very unlikely you’ll have to even show the doctor or nurse your dick.

    Phew… right?

  • Cher has cancelled her concert due to Covid-19 concerns

    Cher has cancelled her concert due to Covid-19 concerns

    “I am so sorry, but your health is paramount”

    Cher has called time on her next Here We Go Again concert due to concerns surrounding Covid-19. Taking to Twitter she wrote that although concerts were fun she had to go with her gut and cancel for the safety of her fans.

    She told fans that she could not “in good conscience play” her concert, which was due to be in Oklahoma City.

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    However, at the time of publishing tickets, some of which are selling for a staggering $496 + fee each, were still be sold on Ticketmaster and there has been no official word, as of yet, on the singer’s website about refunds or whether further shows would be cancelled.

    The singer revealed that she and her concert crew were no longer kissing or holding due to fears surrounding Coronavirus.

    She then warned her fans to wash their hands with “hot water or purell” and not to touch their faces. She then warned against shaking hands, getting to close and letting other people breathe on you.

    Rescheduled

    However, there is some hope, as Cher told fans that she was “trying to reschedule at the end of Summer”

    Cher’s concert cancellation comes right after the organisers of RuPaul’s Drag Convention called its May event in Los Angeles.

  • DILEMMA | After years of trying anal sex is still too painful

    DILEMMA | After years of trying anal sex is still too painful

    What can you do if anal sex is just too painful?

    HEY

    Why does anal sex hurt so much I’ve been having anal sex for years and still hurts to this day

    Bob

    Dear Bob,

    Your question is one that is asked often and one that has many answers. You say that you’ve been having anal sex for many years and it has continuously hurt, but I’d like to understand if this is unbearable pain or discomfort?

    Many guys who bottom will agree that there is a degree of discomfort when it comes to backdoor activities, this is pretty much normal, particularly for newbies to butt sex, but the overall pleasure experienced can often outweigh the discomfort.

    But if you are suffering unbearable pain during sex then you may need to seek medical advice from your GP – as there may be a more pressing underlying issue.

    That said there are a few things that you can try.

    Limit the length

    The Ohnut, was designed for women who suffer from endometriosis, to help limit the amount of penis that actually enters the vagina, but it can easily work for anal sex too.

    Essentially the Ohnut stops the top from entering you too far – giving you more control over how much cock you’re actually taking.

    Worn externally at the base of a penetrating partner e.g. on their shaft or on a toy, Ohnut compresses down to act as a soft buffer during sex. Each set comes with 4 linking rings that allow you to make simple adjustments, so you and your partner can not only discover comfort but also what depths feel really good for both of you.

    Lube, Lube and more lube

    It goes without saying that lube is always your friend when it comes to sex. I’m sure you’re already using lube but have you tried different types? The lube that you may be using might actually be part of the problem. Don’t just rely on the freebies that you can get from gay bars and clubs.

    There are now lubes specifically designed for anal play, which are thicker and longer-lasting. There are water, silicone and oil-based lubricants available. It might be worth exploring if any of these types make the experience more pleasurable for you. A word of warning though, oil-based lubes are not good for use with condoms.

    There’s also numbing lube, but it might not always be a good idea to use lubes that numb, read this article to find out why.

    Dilating and self play

    Have you tried self play? There are dilators – dildo kits that have a variety of sizes to help you relax the sphincter. You start off with a small insertable and as you become accustomed to the feel and feel you can go larger.

    The best bit about this is it’s all you. There’s no rush and you can take time to find out what feels right for you.

    Are you relaxed?

    (C) BIGSTOCK

    One of the biggest issues we face when having butt sex is not the actual mechanics of the butt and all its nerve endings and muscles, it’s actually your mind.

    Are you in a relaxed state? Are you anxious when having sex? Is the sex you’re having, actually the sex you want?

    Only you can answer these questions, but having a think about your mind frame when having sex might lead you to some answers surrounding your discomfort.

    Always remember if sex is just too painful and you want it to stop, then make sure your partner knows and hears you. It’s your body and you don’t have to continue if you don’t want to.

    Have you got a dilemma you’d like to share? Click here to speak to our agony uncle.

  • How to clean your phone in the Coronavirus outbreak

    How to clean your phone in the Coronavirus outbreak

    How clean is your mobile phone?

    And we’re not talking about the private picture area of your Grindr account. Nope.

    Apparently your phone is probably dirtier than a loo seat at an airport, so while we’re all talking about cleanliness during the Covid-19 outbreak, it’s probably wise to talk about the item you touch the most (not on your body) -your phone.

    Its surface harbours millions and millions of bacteria and don’t be surprised if some of them are poo-related. Afterall millions of us use our phones whilst we’re on the potty and let’s face it, the way we’re being encouraged to wash our hands for at least 20 seconds it feels as though perhaps some of us never got the memo back in nursery.

    So we need to take some extra care with cleaning our mobiles.

    Luckily it’s pretty darn easy and really clean and if you use the right equipment you won’t damage your phone.

    The cheapest and easiest way is with disinfectant wipes – which are readily available – and really cheap, particularly if you get them some Lidl or Aldi!

    You can also purchase Disinfectection wipes from Amazon.

    Even Apple has issued a statement to say that cleaning your iPhone with disinfectant wipes was okay. The company said,

    “Using a 70 percent isopropyl alcohol wipe or Clorox Disinfecting Wipes, you may gently wipe the exterior surfaces of your iPhone. Don’t use bleach. Avoid getting moisture in any openings, and don’t submerge your iPhone in any cleaning agents.”

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    Just don’t wash your phone in water for 20 seconds… or actually for any period of time.

  • DragCon LA has been cancelled due to Coronavirus concerns

    DragCon LA has been cancelled due to Coronavirus concerns

    “DragCon’s first priority is always the health and safety of everyone involved”

    It seems the first major LGBT+ event has been cancelled due to fears surrounding Coronavirus.

    The event was due to take place on the 1st, 2nd and 3rd of May just a month and a half away at the time of publishing.

    In a statement on the official RuPaul Drag Convention website, the organizers decided out of an “abundance of caution” for all concerned to cancel the event.

    Writing in a statement on the website, organisers said,

    DragCon’s first priority is always the health and safety of everyone involved and we’ve been actively tracking the situation around the coronavirus. The situation in California (and the world) is rapidly changing, with new information coming out everyday.

    Unfortunately, there’s no way for anyone to know what the situation will be like in May. Due to that uncertainty, and out of an abundance of caution, we’ve decided that it’s in the best interest of the talent, staff, and attendees to cancel RuPaul’s DragCon LA 2020.

    DragCon LA will return in 2021, better than ever.

    We will be working with Eventbrite to issue refunds over the next 7 days.

    Will there be refunds?

    The organisers have said that refunds will be made available on the next 7 days.

    The organisers have committed to a bigger and better DragCon in 2021.

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