Age play is all about guys who like to age up or age down – outside of their biological ages. This isn’t about daddies or twinks. It’s all to do with creating a fantasy where a couple (or more) roleplay another age group altogether.
That means that certain guys might be into wearing diapers and nappies and being changed.
Others might be into older age play, which means they’re likely to want to get kinky with equipment most commonly used with older people, like Zimmer frames and commodes.
Condoms are an important part of safer sex, especially if you’re not on PrEP and are engaging in anal sex, but what should you do with the rubber once you’ve spaffed your load.
Once you’ve removed your penis (while still hard) from your partner’s ass, you should roll the Johnny up from the base of your penis towards the end. Sometimes the receptive partner might do this for you, especially if the end of the condom has become a little dirty during sex. Be careful here, because the condom will tend to go inside out as you’re pulling it away from the body – which isn’t so great when the tip of it is full of jizz.
Make sure to have a tissue to hand and as you take the condom from your cock, place the condom into the tissue and fold over the tissue to encase it. Some people like to tie a knot in the condom, so the man mayo doesn’t leak into your bin.
Then… Chuck it in the bin. Do not put it down the toilet.
Have you seen those fatbergs they’re pulling out of the sewers? Yep, that’s a nasty concoction of condoms, wet wipes and sanitary products and poop all rolled up in fat. It’s not nice and because condoms are mostly latex, they don’t degrade – your trusty condom could be around for decades before it’s broken down. Not so good for the waterways and the planet.
Although did you know you can now get VEGAN condoms?
So chuck it in the bin and then wash your hands.
There are over a hundred clinics in England that are currently offering PrEP on the IMPACT trial.
Obtaining PrEP in Scotland and Wales is different and people wanting to take PrEP should speak to their GP or local sexual health clinic. To find out about accessing PrEP in Northern Ireland click here.
A few of them are currently fully subscribed or no longer taking on new applicants, however, you should ask about being on the waiting list if your nearest clinic is not able to give you a place.
Check the map below to find your local clinic offering PrEP
Unlike in Scotland and Wales, PrEP in England is not freely available and you must apply to part of the IMPACT trial.
Over three years the trial will aim to recruit around 26,000 people as a way to reduce the risk of HIV infection amongst those who are at the highest risk of coming into contact with HIV – one of these groups is gay and bisexual men, as well as trans individuals.
The trial is to try and ascertain how many people will need PrEP in the future and how long they’ll need it for.
If that hot guy you hooked up with isn’t getting back to you, chances are you’ve been ghosted.
The process of being ghosted means that a person that you’ve gotten to know well, perhaps over the course of a few weeks or months, suddenly and
They don’t even seem to have checked their messages.
You can be ghosted in a
Now sometimes there could be a very good reason why they’ve become ghosts and some may even have a legitimate reason for the disappearing act – perhaps, maybe they actually did die! There’s no way of knowing whether they did, particularly if your relationship was solely online via a private app like Grindr.
They could have also been banned from using apps or social media for breaking rules and community guidelines, such as Facebook’s notorious crackdown on sex talk between consenting adults.
And perhaps they already had a partner who found out about the affairs and has ground their partner’s phone into
We ran a
So to answer the question, yes, ghosting does happen a lot of dating ups.
There are a number of places in Nottingham where you can purchase poppers.
Firstly, you can buy poppers from Nottingham’s own Sauna, Wolf Spa. It sells a limited range of poppers for its clientele. You can find Wolf Spa at 1 Kilbourn Road, NG3 1BQ (this venue has now closed down)
Secondly, Nottingham has its very own sex shop, called Private Shop (81-85 Upper Parliament St, Nottingham NG1 6LD) They have a range of seven different types of room odourisers and have multi-pack deals, which you can mix and match. They also sell on bulk – 20 Bottles for £60 which also can be milk and match.
Thirdly you can always buy poppers online, THEGAYSHOP sells a huge range of room aromas to choose from.
It is completely legal to consume and sell poppers in the UK. In 2017 there were fears that the Conservative government would outlaw their sale and usage, however, poppers were proven to not be a psychoactive substance and so the government made a U-turn and decided against making the liquid illegal.
If you’re wondering whether poppers are safe to use, then read our advice on them here.
It might seem like a no brainer – after all banana are a bit penisy – and are cheap as, well bananas but they might not actually be the best thing to use as a sex toy.
There are two main issues. One they are very squishy once out of their skins – I wouldn’t recommend using a banana with its skin still on, because the ends are quite rough and could cause internal damage.
Secondly, bananas don’t have a flared end, like dildos and butt plugs, which means if you lose your grip you’re going to have to poop it out, or maybe even mush it out. Which might be your thing, but probably won’t feel great.
What’s more, if you end up having trouble passing it, you could end up in casualty, which let’s face it is not the best way to spend a Sunday morning.
Using fruit and veg could be a great way to excite and reignite your sex life though. Using soft fleshy, non-acidic fruit such as honeydew melons or watermelons can be an exciting way to get new sensations. Simply put a hole in it and thrusting in and out will provide interesting brand new feelings.
Alternatively, you can always use other foodstuffs such as chocolate spreads or even Marmite, who recently brought out body paint.
Caution must be used when inserting anything into your butt that doesn’t have a handle or gives a good grip. People have ended up in A&E after failing to retrieve a cucumber, banana or carrot that’s gotten lodged in their rectums. Anything that gets stuck up your butt will be a painful experience that can actually lead to death if left untreated. We would urge anyone who has gotten anything stuck up there to seek medical advice immediately, no matter how embarrassed you feel.
Oh did I say use lots of lube…>
If you’re looking to insert something of a edible variety, why not try a lollipop or ice cubes, which will melt.
It’s best to use toys that are actually designed for insertion, such as dildos and vibrators. Don’t forget if you’re using toys together and share them, to use a fresh condom before using it on your partner, and wash them properly after use.
If you are going to insert a carrot, gherkin, cucumber or banana, make sure you’re relaxed. Some of these veg can be much larger than a penis, so using lots of lube and taking your time is a must.
We’ve said it before and we’ll say it again – any butt play is going to need to start off with some kind of lubricant. The anus isn’t self-lubricating so you’re going to need lots of it. Depending on the size of your toy you’ll need different lubes for different activities.
If it’s a smaller prostate massager like the Optimale P Male Slate, which you’re probably not going to be moving in and out and is just going to sit inside you, then you could try just spit. It’s free and simple – everybody has access to that.
However, if you’re going to be using a huge toy, like the American Bombshell Destroyer that you’re going to be riding to show off your skills on Twitter, then you’re going to need a lube that will stop friction and the damage that could cause you.
You should check with the manufacturer of the toy because some toys can’t be used with some types of lube other than water-based. Oil-based lubes are likely to rot or even melt your toy, so keep them away. Depending on the material your toy is made from you shouldn’t even keep toys together without a layer of protection between them, like a cloth or a cotton bag.
Some toys though are silicone lube safe and this is probably one of the better lube types to use for toy play because silicone lube lasts the longest. Silicone lube tends to be a little more expensive than water-based but generally lasts longer so you could end up using less of it. We like using the ID Millennium lube which comes in a variety of sizes. If water-based is your thing then look no further than the Liquid Silk range of lubes. Liquid Silk has a great smooth texture to it – plus the whiteness of the lube has the added bonus of looking a bit like spunk!
For extra help in getting the lube where it actually needs to go you could always try a lube dispenser, a genius way of getting lube deep inside your butt rather than just at the entrance.
Another suggestion is numbing lube if you’re using a massive toy, however, be careful when using numbing lube. Pain felt while inserting a toy is a useful and important messaging system for you. If you don’t get any feedback from your ass, you could be damaging yourself with tears.
There are a number of online adult stores based in the UK. They include the well-established gay brands such as Prowler and Clone Zone but also Bent and our very own TheGayShop.
All of these shops offer home delivery, but what does it cost?
For our experiment, we looked at the price of shipping a bottle of Liquid Silk 250ml to a UK mainland address. Here’s what we found.
THEGAYSHOP came out with the cheapest P&P coming in at £3.75 – using Royal Mail while Love Honey was the most expensive costing a whopping £3.99 for postage, however, they did use Royal Mail’s tracking service.
So here’s what the various brands charged for delivery of 250ml bottle of Liquid Silk.
Prowler charges £3,75
THEGAYSHOP.co.uk charges £2.50
Regulation charges £3.15
Bent / Esmale charges £3.54
CloneZone charges £3.95
LoveHoney charges £3.99
GayMegaStore charges £5.75 (did not stock ID Glide)
All of the stores also offer free stand delivery on orders when you reach a certain price.
Prowler free delivery on orders over £25
TheGayUK free delivery on orders over £40
Regulation free delivery on orders over £50
Bent / Esmale free delivery on orders over £20
CloneZone free delivery on orders over £25
LoveHoney free delivery on orders over £40
GayMegaStore free delivery on orders over €120
Disclosure: TheGayShop is a division of Pineapple Rock Ltd. and profits go towards funding THEGAYUK.com. This is not an advertisement and the contents have not been paid for by any party.
Manchester is one of the gayest cities in the UK, famous for its gay village, which thanks to Queer As Folk is known world-wide. There’s plenty of gay bars and restaurants, but are there any saunas?
The short answer is yes, but not as many as you’d think for a city as large as Manchester. There are a couple, notably, Basement Sauna, the other that you might consider is the Heat Sauna which is outside Manchester in Stockport, about a 30 minute drive away from the city’s centre.
Basement Sauna is located on 18 Tariff Street, just around the corner from Canal Street. Its telephone number is 0161 236 8131. Check out the latest deals and opening times on its website.
Heat Sauna is located in Stockport, 48a Churchgate, Stockport, Cheshire, SK1 1YG. Check out the latest deals and opening times on its website.
So if you’re looking for a hook up you could join a gay chat app like Grindr, Scruff or Growlr or why not join THEGAYUK’s free social network.
Do you know of any good places to meet guys? Leave a comment in the comment sections below.
With the gay scene constantly evolving in Nottingham, we look to see if there are any gay saunas or hook up clubs in the English county of Nottinghamshire. Currently, there are two gay saunas in Nottinghamshire, Wolf Spa and Metro Sauna.
Wolf Spa is located in the city of Nottingham, while Metro Sauna is in Mansfield about a thirty-minute drive from Nottingham city centre.
Wolf Spa is 1 Kilborne Road, Nottingham, NG3 1BQ
Metro Sauna is 71 Ratcliffe Gate, Mansfield NG18 2JB
Timings for each of the saunas are likely to change, so please click on their websites for the latest info. Wolf Spa | Metro Sauna
So if you’re looking for a hook up you could join a gay chat app like Grindr, Scruff or Growlr or why not join THEGAYUK’s free social network
Do you know of any good places to meet guys? Leave a comment in the comment sections below.
If you come across a guy’s profile and it says he’s into 420, it means that he’s into getting high with cannabis (weed, pot, grass). This is quite popular amongst some gay and bi men as it relaxes and heightens sensitivity throughout the whole experience. It can reduce stress, which is also great for those who have anxiety-related erectile dysfunction.
However, you have to pick the right weed if you’re planning to have sex. Sativa products, those products which are made from the Cannabis sativa plant are considered better by some because they can help lift your mood, heighten your sensitivity and intensify orgasm, however, some people have suggested that it can make your mind wander. Some users suggest Indica for “mind-blowing” sex.
Some cannabis strains or more powerful drugs like skunk will leave you too relaxed to get much done, or you may find it impossible to concentrate, climax or perform.
As with most drugs, cannabis and the various strains will affect different people in different ways.
Advice from TalkToFrank suggests, “…only take cannabis when you’re feeling happy and relaxed, in a safe environment, and with people you’re comfortable with”.
Don’t forget to use lots of lube and if you’re looking for a way to relax during sex and don’t quite fancy the idea of smoking weed or taking an edible, why not try CDB lube. CBD is legal in the UK and could be a great way to relax.
Remember, depending on how you take cannabis, the effects can take a while to subside. Effects can last from 10 minutes to an hour if you smoke weed. Ingesting cannabis through an edible could take between two and four hours, according to TalkToFrank.
Don’t forget as with any sex and drug-taking to use lube and if you’re not sure about your partner’s sexual health status, use condoms. To stop the passing on HIV you might want to use PrEP as well.
Cannabis is still illegal in the UK and is classified as a Class B drug – which means it is illegal to have for yourself, give away or sell.
If you’re wanting to talk to someone about addiction or have an issue with your or your partner’s drug usage you can reach out to TalkToFrank for more information.