Once upon a time in the 1990s when AIDS and HIV were still at their most prevalent and unchecked there was funding for the role of “safer sex fairy!” in Devon.

A friend encountered him at a local cruising ground, Haldon Forest. I was informed by the friend who was as agile as a wood nymph that as he skipped gaily along; from behind a tree a man stepped out and introduced himself. He had a longer job title than I have given him but in essence, he gave advice on safer sex and handed out free condoms and lube at local cruising grounds. Now that is what I call a community service.

Since that time of more than 20 years ago I have always prayed to the safer sex fairy when I want something. This year, I wrote him a letter and not Santa with my Christmas wish list. All I wanted was sleaze, please! My wish has been granted.

On Christmas day for reasons of loneliness and nostalgia, I logged onto what was once the busiest of chat sites Gaydar, and it is back! Whether you are of a mind to call it sleaze or kink, interspersed among the plethora of rooms for various locations are those for Bondage, CP/Spanking, Domination, Master & slave and others. Oh, happy days.

The rooms are currently quiet, though bondage always was, so hard to type when you are hogtied and voice command software is of no use once the ball-gag has been fitted.

What is needed is for people to tell each other. I would phone a friend, but it is the middle of the night as I write this, so I am telling you.

Must break off and go to see if the spirit of the safer sex fairy is in the forest tonight, for me to thank.

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About the author: Tom Driver

Disillusioned and back in the closet man who likes other men.

Strongly opinionated, possibly outdated. Genuine, cynical, candid and consider I have a humourous outlook.

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Older than acceptable in Gay circles, larger of frame than is fashionably desirable.

Looking for a platform to share my views and listen to others

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